Developing Self Awareness

Having the self-awareness to identify and understand both your hindering and helpful behaviours is the critical first step in showing up authentically in everything that you do.

When I’m working with my coachees on this, I ask them to take some reflective time every day and answer the following questions:

  1. What themes occupied my mind today?
  2. What situations were particularly significant?
  3. What situations were especially difficult or burdensome?
  4. What made me feel good?
  5. What made me feel bad?
  6. What strategies did I use to manage my thoughts?
  7. How effective were these strategies?
  8. How well did I manage my feelings?
  9. Did I try anything new?
  10. What did I enjoy most today?
  11. What did I learn today?
  12. What will I do differently tomorrow?

Sometimes we discuss the answers and sometimes we don’t. What does happen though is that themes emerge that my coachee brings to session so that he/she can be helped to address them.

Even if you don’t have a coach, try taking some time to ask yourself these questions before you shut down for the day –and mail me at to let me know how it worked for you.